“The mother did not try to comfort Eunyoung or become angry, but poured another …

“The mother did not try to comfort Eunyoung or become angry, but poured another ladleful of ramen soup in Jiyoung’s bowl.” 💙

Wow, so much in a very slim volume of pages. This book is about an everyday woman, Kim Jiyoung who is born in 1982 as the title states and the name Jiyoung was the most common name for Korean baby girls at that time. The book has almost a detatched, clinical feel to it, as a lot of it is being described to a psychiatrist after Jiyoung exhibits some symptoms that cause her husband to be concerned for her well being. It’s a commentary on patriarchy, motherhood and workplace politics and it’s very universal but also pronounced in Korean culture. There was so much about this book that hit a chord with me on a very personal level. The sacrifice of younger siblings to let the older siblings go further in education (happened to my dad and his younger siblings so eldest uncle could go to college and medical school). There’s a whole part about the family registry that also hit me hard. When I was growing up, I was told girls were written into family registries in pencil and then erased and put in their husbands family registry (this is from what my family told me, don’t know how factual it is) but I was OUTRAGED as a teen because I could never imagine not being part of my family! So as a college graduation present to myself, I tattooed my family name onto my body as an act saying you can erase me on a page but I will forever be a Chon. And have never regretted it. Even though I grew up in America, my Korean parents raised me with these messages. During pregnancy, I was more stressed about having a boy first than my parents were. They were super progressive for their generation and community and asked me “did we raise you to feel less valued than a son?” To be honest, NO they did not. But the types of messages I had heard all my life, including being written out of your family book made me want a son to feel more “solid” and to quiet any issues that my old fashioned mother in law may have had about continuing the family line. This book articulated so many subtle and obvious experiences I’ve internalized over the years.

20 thoughts on ““The mother did not try to comfort Eunyoung or become angry, but poured another …”

  1. Fantastic review Caroline!!! I am really looking forward to reading this book and even more now! Thanks for sharing your own experiences! 🤗

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  3. Great review. I like how you discusses things you’ve internalized too. Sounds like a good book

  4. I didn’t know this is a book! I watched the movie awhile back (w/ one of my fav k-actor Gong Yoo😍)

  5. “I will forever be a Chon”! I love that and I love that you loved this book. I’ve been wanting to read it for a while. You and @lonestarwords are pushing it up to the top of my TBR again.

  6. Thank you for sharing your feelings about this one. I’m about to start it, and I’ll read with different eyes knowing the real-world impact of the things included ❤️❤️

  7. Amazing review!! This was already on my list, but your thoughts have made me eager to pick it up soon. Thanks for sharing!

  8. Thank you for sharing your review. I just purchased this book today and want to get to it soon.

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